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Inspiring Women at home and around the world

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Note: This is the second installment in a feature series about Inspiring Women. It is dedicated to all women who are trying to make a difference and better other people’s lives, as well as their own.  In putting together this feature series, I was inspired by several moments in life that in particular stand out.

No.1  A dedication of a Relax, mind, body & soul book by Barbara Heller from my son Jake: “I dedicate this to my inspiring and motivational mother.” Kuba

No. 2  While on a story prior to Mother’s Day, I dropped in at Ace Bernard Hardware to talk about the prizes with owner Charlie Bernard. We talked also about the Lowell Area Chamber and its director Liz Baker.

“You know what I like about Liz, she keeps re-inventing herself,” Bernard said.

No. 3 Again on a story prior to the International Women’s Day I talked to Sow Hope president Mary Dailey Brown.

“If you want to make a difference in this world, seriously consider helping impoverished women. Helping women is the key to unlocking poverty.”

No. 4  At a parents teacher conference at Cherry Creek Elementary in Lowell in mid 1990s: “Mrs. Pala, we do not give up,” teacher Karen Latva said.

Lowell city clerk battled cancer with positive attitude

Name: Betty Renfro Morlock

Position: city clerk

Residence: Lowell Township

Family: husband Sam, daughter Jamie and four grandsons

Hobbies and interests: wrestling, soccer, football and camping

Betty’s story

By Emma Palova

Lowell, MI- “I’ve had a few bumps in my life.”

Now, that’s Betty Morlock’s way of looking at life’s blocks, setbacks or just pure tragedies.

Betty Renfro Morlock
Lowell city clerk Betty Morlock

As the Lowell city clerk since 1988, Morlock has been through highs and lows, mostly in her personal life. She is also a highly visible and accessible person, and that’s not just during the elections.

Two major tragedies early on have pulled the family together. Adopted grandson Tyler Morlock, 4, was diagnosed with cancer in January of 2000. That same year on April 28th, son Steven was killed in an accident on a quad.

“I have that silver lining,” she said. “I am a people person. I love my residents and my community.”

Always vibrant, equipped with enormous energy, Morlock has navigated the city politics well. Twice, she was the president of the Rotary, and she traveled to the Dominican Republic, as part of a program to ship ambulances to the country.

Morlock has enjoyed a successful career, by the side of only two city managers, current Mark Howe and past Dave Pasquale, until the biggest challenge of her life hit hard.

While visiting her sick mother-in-law in Reed City on Dec. 29, 2013, Morlock started feeling increasingly sick herself. After throwing up due to an internal bleeding, Morlock was transported to the Reed City Hospital, and then transferred to Blodgett in Grand Rapids. She was diagnosed with cancer in her ulcer.

Morlock lost weight the hard way. To date, Morlock lost 68 pounds. She had to undergo a surgery that took away one third of her stomach much like in the bariatric bypass surgery.

“I had to have both chemo and radiation because I had cancer in the lymph nodes,” she said.

Betty Renfro Morlock
Betty Renfro Morlock

At the time, Morlock posted enthusiastically on facebook:

“Okay here’s the game plan: Twice a week chemo and then radiation.”

It was really more than that, but her optimistic outlook carried her through the serious illness.

“I’ve never been sick,” she said. “I’ve only been to the hospital to have babies.”

She underwent the treatments at the Lemmen Holton Cancer Center under Spectrum Hospital.

But, Morlock was no stranger to cancer.

“Cancer has been prevalent in our family,” she said.

Morlock lost both her parents to cancer, as well as her sister and brother, aunts and uncles.

She bought a wig, and never had to use it.

“My hair just got thinner,” she said. “I don’t think I was as sick as most people are. I got very emotional.”

The whole time during the treatments, Morlock stayed at her daughter Jamie’s house. She had a feeding tube in the stomach and it took 12 hours to feed six cans of Ensure. Morlock started dropping weight rapidly.

“Thanks God, I had a lot of weight to drop,” she joked.

Morlock received enormous support from the family and the community.

“If you’re going to get sick, Lowell is the place to be,” she said.

Morlock had to go a few times to ER because of anxiety attacks. She started feeling better once the feeding tube was out.

Now, all done with the treatments and back at the city hall, Morlock admits that the chemo and the radiation took a lot of strength out of her.

“It slowed me down a bit,” she said in a recent interview. “I continue to focus on being healthy and starting the next phase of my life, which is retirement.”

Currently, she is working on the cemetery program and the upcoming special election on May 5 for the sales tax increase.

What really gets to Morlock is the actual aftermath of the chemotherapy.

“I have something they call a chemo mind,” she said. “I forget things, I can’t focus or concentrate.

“How long can I claim this chemo mind?”

“As long as you want to, you deserve it,” said the doctor.

For Morlock, always surrounded by stacks of documents at the city hall, the inability to focus is really frustrating

And her biggest fear is that the cancer may come back. Morlock didn’t drive at all during the chemo and the radiation due to lack of concentration.

But, there were many positive outcomes from whole treatment process.

“Cancer made me a stronger person, more understanding and it taught me to value my community and family more.”

                                                                                           Betty Morlock

 Cured, driving and working, Morlock says she was very fortunate.

“I had good doctors and support,” she said. “We’re lucky that we have the Medical Mile.”

She did have her pity parties when the feeding tube started acting up.

“I would feel sorry for Betty,” she said.

Throughout her career, Morlock had her role models like election specialist for Kent County, Sue de Steiguer.

“She is phenomenal,” she said. “All our elections run smooth, we’re lucky to have her.”

Morlock is looking to retire mid-year in June/July.

“I will miss the people, the staff and the community,” she said, “but I am looking forward to volunteering with Lizzie at the chamber.”

Morlock can’t wait to get to Tyler Creek Golf Course area to stay at the summer trailer.

And of course her no.1 love after the family is wrestling.

“I am their number one fan,” she said. “We’ve created bond ship through wrestling. The wrestling families are so tight, they made food for us when I was sick. We help each other.”

 

Betty Renfro Morlock- the woman behind the superwoman

 Emma: What makes you feel good about yourself?

Betty: The fact that I kicked it and made the best of it. It may come back but I am ready for it.

Emma: What do you do for yourself?

Betty: I pray daily. I know God has a plan for me, and if it is to survive, I will survive. Don’t ever lose your faith.”

Emma: How do you balance all this out?

Betty: I continue to focus on my health and I want to start journalling.

Emma: Your plans?

Betty: Get well is my number one plan. Before I got sick, I overworked that might have brought it on.

Emma: Your tips and advice to other women?

Betty: It’s very important to talk to someone to get support. I love facebook. Between the family, community and facebook I kept connected.It’s good to be back. Call me if you need to talk to someone at 897-8457.

About the cover photo: Kathleen Mooney’s abstract inspired by Gee’s Bend quilting.

About the orchid logo: Photograph from the group “I love Czech Republic” on facebook.

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IW Inspiring Women

IW Inspiring Women. A feature series about women making a difference in their communities and around the world.

IW Inspiring Women

Inspiring Women at home and around the world

Orchids in full bloom
Enigmatic orchids

Note: This is the first installment in a feature series about Inspiring Women. It is dedicated to all women who are trying to make a difference and better other people’s lives, as well as their own.  In putting together this feature series, I was inspired by several moments in life that in particular stand out.

No.1  A dedication of a Relax, mind, body & soul book by Barbara Heller from my son Jake: “I dedicate this to my inspiring and motivational mother.” Kuba

No. 2  While on a story prior to Mother’s Day, I dropped in at Ace Bernard Hardware to talk about the prizes with owner Charlie Bernard. We talked also about the Lowell Area Chamber and its director Liz Baker.

“You know what I like about Liz, she keeps re-inventing herself,” Bernard said.

No. 3 Again on a story prior to the International Women’s Day I talked to Sow Hope president Mary Dailey Brown.

“If you want to make a difference in this world, seriously consider helping impoverished women. Helping women is the key to unlocking poverty.”

No. 4  At a parents teacher conference at Cherry Creek Elementary in Lowell in mid 1990s: “Mrs. Pala, we do not give up,” teacher Karen Latva said.

Vestaburg woman leads in trail development

Carolyn Kane chaiperson
Carolyn Kane received an award in Washington DC for trail development in 2011.

Name: Carolyn Kane

Position: chairperson of Friends of Fred Meijer River Valley Trails

Residence: Vestaburg, Michigan

Family: husband Dale, daughters Carol, Kim, Connie, and 14 great grandchildren

Hobbies & Interests: snowmobiling, family

By Emma Palova

EW Emma’s Writings

Vestaburg, MI- Working frantically on a $300,000 grant application from the Natural Resources Trust Fund with an April 1st deadline, Carolyn Kane can get a little stressed out.

Kane’s official title is the chairperson of the Friends of the Fred Meijer River Valley Trails. But her multiple tasks reach far beyond the title, along with the awards for spearheading the development of mid- Michigan trails since 1993.

“I was fortunate enough to retire young,” Kane said. “We planned well and had luck with our investments.”

Kane retired from GTE/Verizon at the age of 52 with an entire space of opportunities ahead of her. As a passionate snowmobiler, Kane was upset when she found out that the Heartland Trail didn’t go anywhere except from Elmdale to three miles outside of Greenville.

“It was a wonderful opportunity to have safe trails,” she said.

At, first, she was elected as secretary of the Friends of Fred Meijer Heartland Trail, and later Kane got involved with the Montcalm Economic Development Alliance.

“I’ve always been interested in recreational corridors and economic development,” she said.

Other than snowmobiling, Kane with husband Dale were avid motorcyclists riding through all but five states.

“Summer after summer we traveled in small groups and we had a wonderful time,” she said.

They also had a fifth wheel and a boat on Burt Lake at Indiana River.

All these were driving forces behind Carolyn’s extensive involvement with West Michigan Greenways Coalition.

“I am a person with a lot of interests,” she said. “I enjoy different things. I’ve never focused on just one thing.”

So, Kane made a natural switch from snowmobiles to trails.

Growing up on a farm near Owosso as the oldest of seven children, Kane learned to be an administrator responsible for her actions.

“I turned into a workaholic,” she said.

Since, Kane learned to take on responsibility early on in life, she also learned to plan for the future.

“When I say I am going to do it,” she said. “I do it. It still boggles my mind that I invite all these managers along the corridor and they show up.”

 As a project coordinator, Kane has no qualms about calling people up whether for a meeting or for money.

One of her biggest achievements in spite of its delay was a trail project around St. John’s.

“We stayed the course, but there also has been a lot of interest in trails,” she said.

One of the biggest challenges was naming the trail from Lowell to Greenville because of the many municipalities involved.

“It took us three years. We had to come up with a compromise,” Kane said. “Greenville finally relented the Flat River in the name and it became the Fred Meijer Flat River Valley Trail.”

Today, Kane has four-drawer file cabinet full of trail stuff. It was donated by the Lowell Area Chamber of Commerce. In spite of numerous setbacks, she is motivated by the passion to get the trail done.

“People are so appreciative of what has transpired,” she said.

Over the years, the inflation has taken its toll on trail projects as well.

In 1994, the 42-mile Heartland trail corridor was purchased for $245,000, as opposed to the 37.5-mile corridor from Ionia to Greenville for $2.3 million.

The 82-mile long trail from Greenville to Owosso with a price tag of $12 million is all but complete except for 26 miles.

However, there are still gaps between different communities that would complete the 7th longest trail in the USA. The 125-mile long Fred Meijer Mid-Michigan Trail Network will ultimately connect Greenville to Owosso going through Michigan heartland and farmlands.

These unfinished gaps have become Kane’s biggest fear. When asked what she is afraid of Kane responded:

“Failing to complete this project!  Just imagine 52 miles from Owosso to Saranac and from Greenville to Alma at 42 miles, a gaping hole from Greenville to Belding which is 2.2 miles, and Belding to Lowell  another BIG gaping hole 14 miles.  My image and/or reputation would be destroyed!  Certainly, I would not be inspiring!”

 Now, that response is typical for hard-driving Kane. Often, she comes into the meetings hauling in binders of trail documents in mid- winter, when others fail to show up. At other time she runs into a deer on her way to an evening meeting 90 miles from home.

Kane also faces chronic complainers with unsubstantiated whining:

“Oh, the trail will bring in crime and trash,” many complained.

“What about the deer on the trails,” others worried.

And then came the biggie: the Federal Lawsuit over the easements of the adjacent owners of the rail trail.

“Michigan has never dealt with something like this,” she said. “Going through the process was fearful. Other states lost the corridor.”

After a long battle, the trail group was able to preserve the corridor and the adjacent land owners were compensated for taking of the property, but they had to have deeds. A handful remains to be resolved.

“It’s amazing what you can do when you say I can,” Kane said. “My husband always says, if there is something you can’t get done, give it to Carolyn.”

Carolyn is amazed at the recognition she received for more than two decades of trail work.

2009 Mid America Trails award for trail work

2011 DNR Partners in conservation award for advancing Rail to Trail work

“I’ve made up my mind, if it’s going to happen,” she said. “It’s going to be up to me. I’ll stay with it until I get it done.”

But, other factors such as health come into play as time goes by.

“I am not going to put my health at risk to get it done, even though I am anxious to complete everything.”

Kane puts in anywhere from 25 to 30 hours a week, and that is without pay.

“How about goals and role models?” I asked.

“As you get older, the long term goals are not as important as they used to be,” Kane said.

“My immediate goal is to get the funding in place and go back to the Belding project,” she said.

Barbara Nelson Jameson with National Parks Service has always been a role model for Kane.

“When I grow up I want to be like Barbara,” Kane said to herself at the first meeting of the Heartland Trail. “She was eloquent in anything she did.”

The other one was Roger Sabine with Kent County Parks.

“He is really someone I can trust,” she said.

Kane is especially proud of being chosen as the National Rail Trail Champion by Rails Trails Conservancy in Washington DC in 2011.

Carolyn Kane, the woman behind the superwoman

 Emma: What makes you feel good about yourself?

Carolyn: Making time for grandchildren and great grandchildren, just doing things with them. They all have snowmobiles. Pulling them around and getting some chocolate.

Emma: What do you do for yourself?

Carolyn: My family has always been number one. I enjoy spending time with them, picking them up from McDonald’s.

Emma: How do juggle work and family?

Carolyn: Balance. There are things that you have to give and take. You have to make decisions. The clean house doesn’t seem as important as 50 years ago.

Emma: Do you prioritize?

Carolyn: I manage to set priorities, but they change, when grand babies come. Life changes you get a different perspective and you have fun with it.

Emma: What keeps you going?

Carolyn: I am very happily married. At this stage in life it makes a difference. I am blessed with a wonderful family.

Emma: What is your inspiration?

Carolyn: The Lord wanted me to do this, he has directed me and helps me stay the course. I don’t get to give up. I keep coming back to the target.”

Emma: Tips and advice for other women.

Carolyn: The key is balance and keeping things in perspective.

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Inspiring women set examples

By Emma Palova

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Lowell, MI- They inspire us. We look up to them. We admire them. We grow stronger by emulating them.

In the “Inspiring Women” series, the EW team will be talking to some of the influential women in the area.

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How do they handle stress, illness, fame, hardship or multi-tasking in light of daily activities?

What makes them strong and resilient?

They keep reinventing themselves, they assimilate or stand out. They’re comedic and serious. They range from trail coordinators, founders of women’s organizations, chamber directors, ministers to local authors, actresses and artists.

What keeps them going in face adversity, controversy and lack of funding? How do they overcome everyday obstacles that bind or deter us?

They never give up until they reach their goal. Call it determination, passion and love for what they do.

But, most of all they’re wives, mothers, grandmothers, sisters and friends.

They have families and never-ending domestic responsibilities. The husband is waiting for dinner; somebody needs to wash the dishes and do the laundry.

Social pressures require they look good and fit, and up to speed with changing times. Sometimes they have to put on a mask of happiness, while deep inside they’re burning like a candle. They don’t give into gossip and lies, deceit or danger.

A strange engine inside keeps them humming.

Read about them over the next weeks and celebrate with them the International Women’s Day worldwide on March 8.

About the featured photo:

Artist Kathleen Mooney painted this picture influenced by Gee Bend’s quilts.

Links:

Sow Hope

http://www.sowhope.org

Kathleen Mooney art

http://www.kathleenmooney.com

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